Engaging in biblical conflict resolution.
PRAYER AND PRIVATE ONE ON ONE RESOLUTION.
CONTACTING AN ELDER FOR SMALL GROUP RESOLUTION.
ELDER PRESENTS CONFLICT TO APPEALS PROCESS LEADERSHIP.
“If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he hears you, you have gained your brother. But if he will not hear, take with you one or two more” (Mt. 18:15–16).
1. The first step in resolving conflict between two parties is to take our concerns to God in prayer and privately to the person in question, whether he or she is a peer or a leader. Our goal is to “win our brother,” not to win an argument. Skipping this first step usually leads to much unnecessary strife, division, and confusion
2. Next, if we are not received by the person involved, then we can engage in the appeals process that moves up the authority structure. For example, after a Meleah family member appeals directly to another Meleah family member about whom they have a concern, if the situation is not resolved, they may then appeal to an elder at Meleah; if the matter is still not resolved, if necessary, to the Appeals Committee.
3. The Appeals Committee acts as the final internal step of our appeals process concerning conflict resolution between two parties.
Please email if you feel unsafe or intimidated about approaching an individual with whom you have a grievance, and if you have any questions or comments about this process.
This committee is comprised of seven members. Seven members will convene to hear concerns brought to them by those who have first gone through the established process. Each member of this committee has an equal vote in seeking to settle a concern or grievance, and the decision agreed upon by the majority (more than 50 percent) of the committee will be the final decision.
The leadership team at Meleah House of Prayer will be subject to and abide by final decisions made by the Appeals Committee concerning conflict resolution between two parties.
If a satisfactory resolution to a concern cannot be reached by our Appeals Committee, the committee is connected with church networks throughout the city that may arbitrate in certain situations.